(Fall, 1997)
I am a lifestyle Dominant with several slaves, retired from a thriving professional Domination business, but I found the term "Dominatrix", to be far too narrow to really describe what it is I do.
I am a dominant personality, but leadership takes many forms: Guru, Teacher, Shaman, Priestess, Goddess, Matriarch. I spell Mistress with a Y because I am a Mystic.. seeker and knower of Mysteries.. on the path of enlightenment.
True growth is experiential: if you trust enough to follow where the Shaman leads, you will come to experience a place you could never find on your own, because you never even dreamt it existed. Yet, it is a place that is really inside of you.
I have always been a spiritual person, and at first it was difficult to reconcile my emerging sadistic dominant impulses with my spirituality.
Most every path suggests that true knowledge of the Self as Divine, comes of a path of service to other, and humility. Choosing to Dominate other humans seemed at first, contradictory.
My own service is dedicated to Goddess: She has chosen for me serve Her by leading others to serve Her also.. and given me the talents to accomplish that. So be it.
She chooses my slaves, and lately I am exquisitely aware, that my clients are also unconsciously finding me thru the workings of their own Higher Self's guidance.
Slaves will tell you, that it is when they are feeling most humbled, most selflessly in service, that is when they feel the most free.. it is transcendent. Thru learning to worship and serve the Divine within another human, they are brought nearer to the truth of Self. That is their path, whether they are aware of the sacredness of sexuality, or not.. the impulse to serve comes direct from Goddess, it's expressions are manifold.
My sessions cause Kundalini awakening, the opening of the path of enlightenment.
When individuals choose to surrender their ego to my dominance, they are surrendering to the power of Goddess in Me: my fully awakened Kundalini.. their choice to surrender to Goddess, awakens Goddess within them. Whether they are conscious of the dimensional ramifications of their decision or not. This is called Shaktipat. The Grace of Goddess Shakti, descending from Guru to seeker to facilitate evolution on physical, mental, emotional and spiritual levels.
When I first made the choice to become a professional Domina, I did not realize that I was already then, a Shaktipat Guru. I had been doing informal spiritual counselling with friends and acquaintances since my Psi abilities showed up in High School. People would use the information/healing energy I was giving them to take off on a tremendous spurt of growth and change: I did not know to attribute it to Kundalini awakening within them. I simply shrugged and thought it was because I was a good witch, a healer, and had been, for many lifetimes over.
Previously when I had encountered references to Enlightenment, in my wandering spiritual studies, and recognized similarities in my own experience, I had not believed it. Enlightenment? Me? No way.. the grace of humility would not allow me to accept the enormous truth about My Self. That I was born an awakened being.
Goddess is persistent: Meditating to find my professional name, the inner voice chose Angelique Serpent. I was surprised, coz it sounded like a code name for Satan. The inner voice said to trust, and began to teach me of the truth of the Serpent on the Tree of life, and the red apple that is the Root Chakra where Kundalini serpent power lies coiled sleeping, in most people.
Patriarchy demonized the Goddess of Creation. Long before the old testament, the Serpent was the symbol of the Mother Goddess: fertility, wisdom and healing. The medical symbol, the caduceus, is a diagram of fully awakened Kundalini. Serpents coiling around the spine, unfolded into the double helix of DNA, with the halo of the open crown chakra above.
(The "serpents" that St. Patrick drove out of Ireland were the Witches of Goddess Brigit. Healers and midwives. St. Patrick's boast was a lament, first, I suspect. The church at that time did not allow any healing. Illness was the punishment of an angry God, and must not be interfered with.)
Studying Kundalini and getting to more fully understand it's physical symptoms of manifestation, I discovered that I was awakening Goddess in my clients.
This was actually, kind of upsetting! Some of my clients did not have any conscious spiritual preparation to guide them, so when they started having visions, and feeling energy moving inside them they thought they were going crazy and sought psychiatric help. I felt responsible, tho the result had been beyond my control.
Psychiatry knows little of Kundalini, tho Carl Jung wrote about it quite extensively. Psychiatry wants to try to medicate K. symptoms away, and that is not possible. Any resistance to the path of K. unfolding, once it has started causes difficulty and discomfort. Kundalini has been called the most powerful force in the universe.. once it has been awakened, one must fully surrender to it, it is going to win anyways.
Part of my upset, came from the seeming non-consensuality of the interaction. My clients were not expecting to actually serve a Goddess, when they hired me to dominate them. How could they? They had been told that such a being does not exist.
My telling them so in advance, they would have simply taken to be more Pro Domina hype, such as you see in every Fem-dom magazine. They would not have believed it anyways.
Nor can the experience of K. awakening really be described: it is vastness beyond the physical limitations of words to express. It must be experienced, to be understood. Much like BDSM itself.
I took last year off to meditate on the ramifications of this, and what it meant to my path, and deepened my understanding of the sacredness of sexuality and my purpose on this planet. In the end, I realized that it is not me that makes the decision, to awaken the Serpents or not.. it is a decision made by their own higher self. I facilitate this experience by dominating their ego.. when the ego is quiet, Goddess steps in.
Further research has suggested that I have been led to rediscover a lost form of Tantric Shaktipat initiation.
The magic is in the polarities.. All things are equal, but when we take that equality and play with it.. stretch it in games of Dom/sub, the roles snap back into Unity of experience and energy is manifested. There is only one of us and it is All of us sharing each other's experience in a higher vibration of Tantric unity.
I find the correspondences between the Guru-chela game and the Mystress/slave game to be staggering. Gurus have said, it is thru the faith of the seeker, that miracles occur.. to me this is a recognition of the energy generated by playing with status polarities.
Society has no place for playing with the polarities with physical ritual, except the BDSM scene. That is the only place where there are lovingly ritualized rules for negotiating such interactions, and the expectation of extreme physicality.. and it is the physical rituals of submission and surrender that generate the big energy. Meditations on surrender.. thought.. are slow progress compared with word-deed of ritual. Meditation tries to shut out the body sensations.. ritual uses them as an object of focus.
I consider myself Fem-dom, and admittedly sometimes think of men as "disadvantaged", but I am not a female supremacist. As a mystic, I do not consider myself superior to anything. Rock, tree, bird, slave, all are manifestations of the Divine, All that Is, and therefore all manifestations are equal. We are all made of the same stuff.
Truly, whether someone surrenders to the divine in me or in themselves or in an ant, it makes no difference.. so long as they surrender. Goddess is All that Is, and seeing Goddess in anything will help thru the Mirror, to find Goddess in Oneself. However, the motivation provided by service to an object of desire, who has trod the path and can speak words of encouragement, is not to be dismissed lightly.
I think that there are two polarities of person on the planet.. Dom and sub. A sub person can find Goddess thru submission to the Guru.. and as the instinct is for submission, the motives and rewards are in place for success.
However, a Dom person does not have an instinct to submit unless there is no other option. So a Dom person is more likely to scorn any guru but the Inner voice, re-invent the wheel, and surrender ego to Goddess only when Goddess has mashed it flat with life events.
In the path of re inventing the wheel, tho, they get to know the wheel very very well, and thus know the territory better to lead others thru it.. which is their nature.. so it is perfection.
My experiences of Deity, are that It is beyond limitations of gender. I limit Goddess by naming Her Female. However, I use that term because it is distinct from the judgmental sexist "male" God of my Roman Catholic upbringing, and because it reminds me, that Goddess is alive inside myself.
The path of Kundalini awakening tends to have an androgynizing effect, as the male and female halves of an individual become balanced. I am physically fem, but spiritually an androgynous being who can appreciate the fem qualities in males, and the male qualities in fems.
A Tantric exercise I do with my slaves and clients, is "The Sacred Marriage". The union of the male and female within each person. Balancing the male-fem sides of an individual.
I find that this is best understood, in terms of conscious and unconscious mind. The conscious ego self of each person, is usually the same gender as the physical self (there are exceptions).
The unconscious self is always the opposite gender as the body.
It is usually manifested in the mind as the vision of the "ideal mate", that we seek to find elsewhere. Most relationships are two half people trying to make one whole one.. the result is co-dependence, expectations and disappointment.
The unconscious controls all the subtle mechanisms of the body, all the memories and knowing, and has a much closer connection to the divine.. so when the male and female halves are joined we have the whole brain working in co-operation, along with spirit. A whole person.
The child of the Sacred Marriage is the new Self: the divine androgyne. Spirit having a human experience.
My skills as a dominant come mostly from my unconscious, which is male.. and from spirit, which is androgyne... and the submission of my male slaves comes from the prompting of their unconscious, which is female..receptive.
Thus, it is my experience that Fem-dom male-sub interactions are more likely to take on a Tantric spiritual aspect, because we are working from the unconscious switch gender: male-agressive fem-receptive selves, rather than the surface ego ones. There is a duality inherent which balances.
As above, so below.. I observe that on Earth, life always begins with the feminine. Which came first, the chicken or the egg? Both are female symbols, and human males are female for the first six weeks after conception. Everything has a Mother, everything starts with the Egg. Thus, logically I find it easier to conceptualize Deity for myself as "Mother Goddess". Unconditionally loving Creatrix.
I am Fem-Dom, because I think that the female brain with it's ability to do many things at once, and it's genetic ability to think in terms of community impact rather than the individual make for superior leadership ability. Women are management, men are labor. Men, thru single pointed focus, are often better at completing single-focus goals without being distracted by the "big picture".
It is a team, every player brings their strengths to the table. Hierarchies of status, have little to do with "equality". They are simply nature's way of arranging teams for efficiency. Fusing individuals into a single unit. We need each other, and interdependence suggests equality. Leaders are the creation of followers, without followers, there is nothing to lead. I keep my domination grounded in the awareness, that a good leader is in service to the needs of those she leads. Leadership is not superiority, it is a service loop.
Folks think that leaders have more freedom than followers, but it ain't so. Leadership comes with a specific kind of submission: the burden of responsibility, to act on behalf of the needs of the community and to follow the purity of one's own vision, that is the opposite of the freedom found in submission.
I think women have a physical advantage when it comes to leadership, but I would choose to follow the leadership of an androgynous being who is surrendered to Goddess, who happened to be in a male body, such as Gandhi, over an unawakened leader who happened to be female.
The current wave of K. energy washing over the planet means a goal that in other centuries was attained after much spiritual seeking: Kundalini awakening, now comes at the drop of a hat. Near death experiences, 12 step recovery programs, even UFO abductions cause K.A. I have a website with a meditation that is energetically supported thru my Shaktipat: so far I have had several people report that their K. awakened from the website.
It is a contagious phenomenon, and like any contagion, the more folks have it, the more folks catch it. Unlike other contagions, tho, it can be spread inspirationally thru art and text, television and Internet, as readily as by personal contact. It has been predicted that when a certain percentage of the world's population has been awakened, thru their combined energies the whole world will awaken and we will enter a new age of peace and enlightenment. The age of Aquarius.
My K. is very contagious, sharing it and helping those in its grip to understand the process they are experiencing, is my purpose on the planet at this time. I am a Fem-dom representative of Goddess, who is the Creatrix of the matrifocal revolution that we are experiencing. It is happening because She wishes it.
Goddess has it handled.. everything is already perfect, nothing needs saving.
But I follow my bliss..