This is the "spell" I use to keep my form in perfect shape without effort. Works great for everyone whose taken the time to do it. It can be adapted for healing oneself, too.
    I call it a spell, don't be scared, it's mostly creative visualization and improving communication with the unconscious.

I recommend that you read it while you are doing it.. give yourself some time.. there is a rather linear progression of ideas that are best thought about in the order that they are presented. Wait to read this when you have 45 minutes or more to go through the visualizations, when you are relaxed and feeling good. Take your time, you are worth the extra effort to take the quiet quality time for yourself to really focus.

My fitness routine: orgasms, swinging a whip, cycling in summer, yoga when I feel like it. A bit of gardening.
    My diet: includes plenty of Hagen Dazes, butter, eggs, avocados, flax oil, fat red meat and stuff. No wheat products or rice, because of allergies. Bags of corn chips. No diet as such, just allergies and an appetite programmed tiny.
    Flax seed oil taken daily will help break down the undigestible oils, margarine, deep fry fats that the body tends to store as toxic cellulite, because it cannot process them. Since I started taking it, nearly 3 years ago, I have not had a cold or flu, and my seasonal allergies have diminished considerably. It has also been shown to prevent lung cancer.
    My weight crept up past 145 once, I went oops and reprogrammed it. I keep it steady at 120, (5'8") effortlessly. My Mom thinks I am too thin, of course... I am the nearly only slender female amongst my many large relatives. Younger, I watched them and said not me!
    And I dug out the reasons for why they were the way they were from my head, and made different choices. So can you.

The basis of this is finding out why you have chosen to manifest as you have, what you are getting out of it...you are getting something out of it, at least your unconscious mind is, or you would not be the way you are.

When you know more about the benefits you are getting, you can choose to get them elsewhere.. so you can choose to manifest differently. It is done best from the Witness state, stay grounded as you dig though the old stuff.

Don't go beating yourself up for the stuff you find, or looking for fault or blame, that is the way to stay stuck. Something does not have to be "wrong" for you to want a change. I wore a green shirt yesterday, today I'll wear a purple one. Variety!

If you are not grounded go to the grounding page and do the meditation there and then come back.

Now.

I will go into a lot of different things, some may be old news, some might not apply. Try them all on for size anyway, and see what comes up.

First, make friends with your unconscious.
    This sounds silly, but it's important, your unconscious is your best friend in the world, it totally loves you, it keeps your heart beating for you, breathes, digests, controls the minutest workings of every cell, and stores all of your memories and experiences....yet most folks spend more time complaining and being mistrustful of their own unconscious than thanking it. It is your unconscious that is in charge of your body.. if you want it to co-operate, better be nice!

Say "thank you my unconscious", out loud, 3x with heartfelt feeling.

Feel the happy buzz glow that is it saying you are welcome, I love you.

Say it again 5x, fall over giddy and giggling.

Say it many times every day whenever something good happens, see your memory and intuition improve tremendously.

Unconscious cannot process your negative ideas and emotions, it has to stuff them in a box and wait for an opportunity to present them so they can be resolved. It needs your opinions, your free will ego choice to give it permission to clear the closets.

Usually instead when a "black box" (sack 'o shit) pops up we say oh no not that again' and stuff it back down...so it gains urgency and size, but does not get released and processed. A useful image for understanding how desperately your unconscious wants to get rid of this stuff, is the image of a small child urgently seeking a toilet.

Unconscious knows that any negative experience can be released if we trade negative emotion in for the learning we received. Cool, eh? For some folks it is a sticking place.. the trick is, the learning does not have to become conscious to release the box, and the unconscious has the cosmic understanding of the lesson in the box already, it just needs permission to delete the negative emotional content. Deleting the content will often release the lesson.. today, or tomorrow.. or when you are eighty.. don't worry about it. Give up the emotional baggage, and let your unconscious rest.. coz it might be what you are calling "lessons" and struggling to learn the purpose of, are really "issues" (sacks 'o shit) that need to be surrendered and then they won't come up anymore.
    Maybe life is about experiences, and we put lessons onto them because we spend our early life in school?
    Regardless of your point of view, know that your higher self is beyond space time and already knows all of the lessons there is to learn. It is in much closer communication with your body and unconscious than your ego mind. They are smarter than you.. tho they serve your choices..

So, give up the negative energy in faith, to be resolved on a higher level, and trust your higher self to find a simple sweet way of communicating the lesson, if there needs to be one, later.

Your unconscious, being your best friend in the world, always has your best interests at heart. It does it does it does. It really does, it is taking care of you the best way it can, according to what you believe about yourself.
    Sometimes, though, it is running on old programming. Ideas about what is best for you that are no longer most effective. It loves you, and is happy to upgrade, as long as whatever needs are still going to be met.

The great thing is, your creative mind can team up with your unconscious to come up with bizillions of alternate more aligned ways for any need, once you ask it to. You don't even need to consciously know what the new program is, just trust.
    If you have trust enough, you don't even have to dig through the old stuff, you don't have to know consciously what needs are being met, or why. You can just get your unconscious to meet them in a different way.
    But, with K. this will be easy stuff.
    Dig through, having the Gems conscious is nice... but know also that Ego can invent Reasons endlessly, that is all it does.. be sure to stay grounded as you do this or you may find you are descending into a hole you dug.

First, we have to figure out what benefits you are getting out of having extra weight.

The issues of food and weight are usually connected with old ideas of food and safety. These manifest in different ways.

Women often gain weight because of issues around sexuality. Being conventionally sexy is perceived as being dangerous, and so there is an attempt to hide the person inside under layers.
    Love me for who I am, they are saying. Look for the person inside, and if you will do that then I know I can trust you...love me anyway, without demands for me to change.
    I have encountered weight problems as a source for hidden needs for humiliation, as reliable as Homer Simpson's belly. It is a kind of attention, that is a love language, it must be met consistently.
    Sometimes the is a security of limitations.."I cannot do this because"...is easier than "I will do this"...what are you not doing that you tell yourself you would "if"...? What will be lost with the weight? How will people respond to you if you change?
    That can be a scary one... will they still love you if you are not the same?

For both genders, there is often the connection between food and love, if ice cream stopped tears at six, likely comfort foods are still taking the place of real comfort. Sometimes a backwards version of this one is making up for a needy childhood by getting all the treats now you didn't get, then.
    If guilt is added, this will only fixate the desires. The siren call of the forbidden. No guilt! You are already perfection.. you just haven't realized it yet.. :)
    Then there is the reward of eating to feel full, when one feels empty. The desires are mixed. Think of eating to dispel hunger, and stop before you feel full.
    Full, feels uncomfortable after awhile, and the connection ceases.

But how to do that?? By clear communication with your unconscious telling it what you want to change.
    I will pass on a Tony Robbins trick for reversing images.

Pick something you don't want in your life anymore, something small for a first try..and get an image in your mind that represents this stuff. The image is probably 3d technicolor surround sound. Look at it like it's on TV.. Turn the volume down. Turn the image black and white and grainy. Shrink it down to a tiny pinpoint in a lower corner of your mental vision.

From the other corner, pull up an image that represents what you want instead. Examine the vision, brighten up the color, fine tune the details, give it love and a gold fire frame and allow yourself permission to have it, or something even better, for the good of all and harm to none.
    Thank you my unconscious 3x.
    In the book, Tony teaches that one to someone who switches KFC for carrots forever.
    If you are not a visual person, try to do it with sounds or feelings. One thing to do is to get an image or sound in your mind that is marked "disposal".. a signal you can give to your unconscious that something is wanted gone.. and you may find after a while that it uses the signal back at you to get permission to flush.. the sound of a toilet flushing is a good signal, or a trash can in your head, that flies open and things get pitched in.. an incinerator.. or a window that things get thrown out of.. or just imagine it flying out the top of your head and up up up.. into the sun to be turned into light and shine back down as wisdom.
    I used to have some fun using an invisible T-rex who liked to eat the negative stuff I wanted to get rid of. I'd feed it to him. He was very polite.. he had the personality of a Disney character, but silent except for loud belches to say "Thanks!" when he was done feeding.

Often, if boundary issues are part of past history, there is a need to be bigger, simply obvious that an elephant is safer than an ant...hard to push around an elephant, easy to step on an ant. Been there?
    You know how they train elephants. The elephant grows up never realizing it's strength has outgrown the chains that bind it.
    This safety of size is illusory...elephants get shot for their ivory, but an ant can escape into a tiny crevice. Ants don't get captured for circuses.

Stay in a witness state, explore the reasons that come up for your weight, and the reasons why losing weight must be hard, release them with love and an expectation for something better, courtesy of your creative mind. Engage your higher self that knows all things are a product of your beliefs, and beliefs can be changed.
    Listen for the voices that say "you" and the voices that say "I". The voices saying 'you' are external opinions that you internalized somewhere along the way, because they were the best information available at the time.
    Do you want to keep these opinions? They may be good or bad.. sometimes good opinions can be as dangerous as bad ones.. look at advertising to see how the mechanism works.. good opinions sometimes require more effort in upkeep.

Flush them. Turn the sound down fuzzy, thank you for showing me these black boxes my unconscious, release them, here is an affirmation in my own voice out loud 3x to replace it. Or as many times as it takes to say it with confidence.
    If it is stubborn not wanting to come out with confidence, dig for a few more boxes and find out what else is there. Most likely it needs some refinement.
    Look at your beliefs about what you need to do to stay fit, too. My snake sleeps for weeks, she is rippled muscle and not a workout anywhere. A hummingbird lives on nothing but sugar.

Now the real magic...get even more deeply grounded, and bathe yourself in unconditional love and acceptance, for who you are in this moment. Give love to all of the life experiences that went into creating you, as you are right now, even if you do not understand the meaning or purpose of all of the experiences, yet, and even if some of them were nasty.

Imagine that you stand naked before a 3 way mirror, as you are now.

Look at yourself with love, no criticism! Take a good look, turn around and observe yourself with love and acceptance. Your body is an incredible gift from Goddess, the clothes your limitless eternal spirit wears this lifetime. Look at your being with unconditional love and acceptance, and thank your body for all of it's blessings.... build up a nice warm glow..
    Focus now on spirit form. You have an idealized version of yourself in your mind, already. What you have always felt yourself to ideally look like. Accept it as a gift of inspiration.
    You know how you have imagined yourself to look in some fantasies. Love who you are, and give yourself permission to be the person of your dreams. Your body is your creation, clay for you to sculpt as you wish.
    As you admire yourself in the mirror, begin to caress your delightful physical form with the sensual joy of spirit. As you caress yourself all over, hands glowing with light, up and down and around again and again, the clay of your body responds to the sculpture of your spirit touch.
    With your caresses, sculpt and smooth your physical body into the idealized image of your spirit form. Massage away the loose skin and feel it renewing under your loving touch, feel the tone of your body changing as you desire as you caress the textures of your own flesh. Feel the muscles under the skin, and be very aware of your wondrous physicality.
    Take your time, the sculpture of you is worth the thought and care. Look at all of your bits and give them love and sculpt them with caresses. Stop to observe your progress and admire the beauty of your work, the wonder of the creation of your self.
    Give yourself perfect radiant health, from Goddess love and abundance. Love and light fired off out your head and into the planet to support this vision. (or whatever inspires faith, for you)
    When the sculpture is done, if you have given it sufficient attention and care you will actually feel the physicality of your new body under the surface of your present one.
    Give yourself permission to have it manifest effortlessly with grace, and thanks thanks thanks to your unconscious which will be working to create it for you starting immediately. Without requiring much of your conscious thought, but an occasional affirmation as more black boxes come up.

You probably have a number you associate with your ideal weight. Put that number glowing neon light your favorite color on the inside of your forehead. Old patterns come up, temptation strikes, need an internal appetite check and a booster? It is only your unconscious asking you to make a decision top dump more baggage. Answer it with a look at the glowing number which is connected to the image of your ideal form and your temptation will vanish instantly poof effortless into nothing but a warm glow or weird craving for something your body really needs.
    Thank your unconscious when this happens.

All is in alignment, there is no effort because all resistance and old limitations ideas, have been released, will be released with love if they come again, any stray bits. Your unconscious is already readjusting the metabolism of every single cell of your body to manifest with love the form of your desires. Isn't co-operation wonderful?
    Thank you my unconscious 3x out loud with love and feeling, so be it for highest good.
    Your form will be reshaping itself all the time while you are consciously busy with other things. You may repeat this exercise whenever you feel the need.
    Spend some time in this nice glowing state thinking about how wonderful it is to take long walks, by yourself meditative, or with a good companion. Think about walking down a long beach, through a forest, and on a city street, taking in all the bustling energy and vibrancy around you, becoming more relaxed and recharged, refreshed with every step.
    Think of how coming home feels especially good after a nice stroll, taking in the world. Think of how well you sleep after walking. How effortless walking is when you are enjoying it. How much you have enjoyed it. The best walks you have taken, what you saw or experienced.
    If you are physically unable to walk, you may want to imagine floating.

That's it. Love who you are, give yourself permission to change anyway, and get your unconscious to see and accept a clear image of your desires. You have the most powerful force of the universe behind you, morphing your own form is cosmically simpler than getting good parking spots. Same essential principle, tho.

Blessings, Angelique.

PS: You know my spells work, I could bottle this one and start an empire. Mebbie I will.. heh heh..